Men are having a rough go. Although some think being male is life in easy mode, the harsh reality is most men struggle. Men share the worst things about being a man.
Social Isolation
The rise of the internet led to more isolation among men, especially introverted men. As everyone turned inwards and hid behind their computer screens, the opportunities for social interaction, especially for introverts, disappeared.
Surface Level Relationships
Society has strict standards for male friendships. You can only discuss sports, cars, and your latest conquest. There can be no discussion of more profound matters, such as mental health struggles, the truth about how you feel at work or meaningful relationships.
Dating Apps
Dating apps destroyed dating. Men still use them to find a partner, but most women become weary of the platforms after a few rotten apples. The men on apps vastly outnumber the women, and men aren’t sure where else to go to find potential partners.
Stigma Against Emotions
Men aren’t allowed to feel sadness, depression, or loneliness. They can’t enjoy the full range of human emotions because anything outside anger is deemed “unmanly.”
Abuse Victims
Society still sees men as the aggressor and women as victims of abuse. Though statistically, that’s true, statistics never tell the whole story. We must take each incident as unique rather than point to statistics thinking we know what happened. People of either gender can be abusive.
Zero Support
Society offers a plethora of programs to assist marginalized communities, but white men, as they’re not part of a marginalized community, typically don’t qualify.
White men need support too, and there are few opportunities for them.
It’s All on You
The myth of rugged individualism hurts men. Society raises men to believe everything rests on their shoulders. They must be great providers, perfect husbands, stoic leaders, and everything to everyone. It’s too much for anyone; men often freeze under the overwhelming burden.
Being Good With Kids
Society stigmatizes men who are good with kids. A dad at the park gets side-eyed glances from the mothers. Men rarely get positions in daycare facilities or as primary school teachers. Women see Nurturing men as creepy and other men deem them “unmanly.” They can’t win.
Unable To Provide
We call men “providers” while destroying their ability to provide. Blue-collar jobs no longer provide a living wage for one, much less for a family. Even white-collar workers need a partner to help with the builds.
Society created a massive group of men whose self-worth is based on their ability to provide, and then destroyed all their options for doing so, then wonders why men are having a tough time.
Lack of Purpose
Men are really feeling the pressures of daily life. They work a grueling job, can barely pay the bills, have no free time, can’t afford to date, and end up thinking, “Is this all there is?”
It’s not just men. All of our lives lack purpose. Our society worships the mighty dollar, and if you don’t make enough, you’re unworthy.
Something needs to change.
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Melanie launched Partners in Fire in 2017 to document her quest for financial independence with a mix of finance, fun, and solving the world’s problems. She’s self educated in personal finance and passionate about fighting systematic problems that prevent others from achieving their own financial goals. She also loves travel, anthropology, gaming and her cats.