Being a Female Breadwinner

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Clearly, I have lots of experience with being a female breadwinner, and if that experience can help others, then it’s a post worth writing.

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A study came out just last year showing that both men and women downplay a woman’s contributions when she makes more.

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I think one of the biggest hurdles that female breadwinners face is societal expectations. I don’t like to judge people based on what they do for a living.

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It’s incredibly difficult to not feel affected by these societal expectations – to not feel judged or ashamed.

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If you’ve identified that you want to dismiss those feelings, you have to ensure that they won’t negatively affect the relationship.

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The best way to mitigate differences in salary (regardless of who the breadwinner is) is to have adult conversations about money.

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I briefly mentioned non-monetary contributions above, but people don’t always recognize how important they are to a relationship.

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Being a Female Breadwinner

Clearly, I have lots of experience with being a female breadwinner, and if that experience can help others, then it’s a post worth writing.

A study came out just last year showing that both men and women downplay a woman’s contributions when she makes more.

I think one of the biggest hurdles that female breadwinners face is societal expectations. I don’t like to judge people based on what they do for a living.

Societal Expectations

It’s incredibly difficult to not feel affected by these societal expectations – to not feel judged or ashamed.

Identifying Why You Have Those Feelings

If you’ve identified that you want to dismiss those feelings, you have to ensure that they won’t negatively affect the relationship.

Not Letting it Affect the Relationship

The best way to mitigate differences in salary (regardless of who the breadwinner is) is to have adult conversations about money.

Conversations about Money

I briefly mentioned non-monetary contributions above, but people don’t always recognize how important they are to a relationship.

Non-Monetary Contributions

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