Frugal or Miserly? When You Can't Tell the Difference

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The quest for financial independence and early retirement forces us to make sacrifices.

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However, sometimes we get so caught up in saving for the future that we forget to live in the present.

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One man fell down this rabbit hole and came to Reddit to ask whether his frugality is too much.

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He and his wife have been together for six years, married for four. They bought a starter home soon after the wedding.

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He received a job offer across the country. Although they had no support system in the new town, he decided to go, as the pay increase was impossible to turn down.

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OP is baffled by his wife’s unhappiness. He stressed that she’s not needy or demanding and admitted knowing her dream was to live a simple life.

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OP forced her into a minimalistic lifestyle. Despite the high incomes, they drive a 15-year-old car he calls “unreliable.”

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The OP scoffed at his wife’s simple demands. They could easily afford the house she wants, but he refuses to be tied to a mortgage.

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SWIPE UP To See Who's Wrong!

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Frugal or Miserly? When You Can't Tell the Difference

The quest for financial independence and early retirement forces us to make sacrifices.

However, sometimes we get so caught up in saving for the future that we forget to live in the present.

One man fell down this rabbit hole and came to Reddit to ask whether his frugality is too much.

He and his wife have been together for six years, married for four. They bought a starter home soon after the wedding.

Backstory

He received a job offer across the country. Although they had no support system in the new town, he decided to go, as the pay increase was impossible to turn down.

Moving

OP is baffled by his wife’s unhappiness. He stressed that she’s not needy or demanding and admitted knowing her dream was to live a simple life.

She's Unhappy

OP forced her into a minimalistic lifestyle. Despite the high incomes, they drive a 15-year-old car he calls “unreliable.”

He's too Frugal

The OP scoffed at his wife’s simple demands. They could easily afford the house she wants, but he refuses to be tied to a mortgage.

Is She Unreasonable?

SWIPE UP To See Who's Wrong!