Honoring Our Grandmothers by Living a Life They Couldn't

I’ve been thinking about my grandmother a lot lately. She passed away about 6 years ago, but her health had been failing for a long time. She had four children, 10 grandchildren, and a handful of great-grandchildren 

The Greatest Achievement of womanhood

Many would look at the healthy, happy generations that she created and say that she lived a successful life. She achieved the pinnacle of womanhood with her large family and smiling grandchildren 

But the life she lived wasn’t the life she wanted. She didn’t have the chance to do the things she dreamed of doing.

It was the early 1950s. The main goal for any young woman of the era was to get that ring. Find a man and settle into a life of marriage and homemaking. Society, culture, and cold war propaganda all played a hand in structuring this norm. 

The Life and Times of Our Grandmothers

My grandmother got married in 1952. She was 17. She got pregnant with her first daughter, my aunt, shortly after being wed and had my mother the day after her 20th birthday. 

Stuck in a tenuous marriage

My grandparents marriage could be considered "good". He wasn't abusive. But he wasn't right for her, He wasn't interested in taking her out, helping with the kids, helping at home, or keeping any of the promises he made to her about a life of adventure. 

Divorce Not an Option

Divorce was not common or typical in the 1960s and 70s. Divorced women were stigmatized and often struggled to advance beyond the poverty level. No-fault divorce wasn’t even fully available until 1980, and my grandmother was already a grandparent by this time. 

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