12 Parenting Myths Society Needs To Retire

Parenting is a tough gig. After nine months of waiting, a fresh newborn baby is thrust into your arms, and you’re supposed to take it home and care for it for 18 years, nurturing and nourishing it, teaching social conventions, and ensuring it becomes a productive member of society. 

Parenting Myths

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Throughout the centuries, different cultures and societies developed unique rules for parenting. Some claim the “best” way to do this or that, and although modern experts can prove why these myths are wrong, many parents still swear by them. 

Here are the 12 biggest parenting myths people need to stop believing for their children’s well-being. 

Avoid Allergies

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Many parents make their kid’s allergies worse by restricting their diets from infancy. We get that you don’t want to give a child something that could be dangerous, but numerous studies show that small amounts early on will reduce the impacts of severe allergies. 

Kids Straighten You Out

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People think burdening an out-of-control adult with a child will help “straighten them out.” While sometimes that happens, more often than not, the parent neglects their child, causing even more suffering. Nobody should have kids if they aren’t ready to parent. 

You’ll Spoil Them

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New parents think if they “give in” to their newborn baby’s cries, they’ll spoil them. While you can spoil toddlers and older kids, you can’t spoil a newborn. They’re crying because they need something. 

Avoid Languages

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Some folks think exposing young children to foreign languages will confuse them. Learning a new language while you’re young and your brain is still learning language processing is much better. 

Dad’s Babysitting

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One of the most significant cultural myths surrounding parenting is the dad’s role. Though many modern fathers are stepping up and parenting, the cultural stigma against dads as caretakers remains. Men make fantastic parents when given the opportunity. Society needs to get on board. 

Girls are Harder To Raise

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Kids are hard to raise regardless of gender. A lot of people think girls are more challenging because they do the work to raise the girls while they leave the boys to their own devices. 

There’s a “Right” Way

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There may be a proper way, but no one agrees on what that is. You can read five books by five world-class experts, and they’ll all have different advice. 

Don’t worry about the right way. Worry about making sure your kid is okay however you can. 

Fear = Love

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Far too many men learned toxic attitudes about love, fear, and respect. They think their kids must fear them to respect them, which will somehow equate to love. 

The best respect is that born out of love. 

They Owe You

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One of the worst reasons to have kids is to “have someone to take care of you.” You chose to have children. They didn’t choose to be born. They owe you nothing: not time, love, care, commitment, money. 

You must develop happy, healthy relationships with your children if you want those things. 

No Regret

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Not everyone is happy with their decision to have children. You don’t hear about it because society berates anyone for daring to say it. Having kids isn’t for everyone, and it’s better to regret not having kids than to regret having them. 

Stay Together for the Kids

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Far too many parents stay together “for the sake of the kids,” not realizing that them together makes the kids even more miserable. It’s far better for the kids to see two happy people apart living their best lives than to watch two miserable people treat each other horribly. 

Motherly Instincts

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People love to tell expectant mothers not to worry about a thing, that their motherly instincts will kick in, and they’ll know what to do. Not everyone has maternal instincts; some folks need more help figuring it out. We need to stop shaming people for not knowing. 

Reasons Not To Have Kids

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Despite all the pressure to procreate, it’s perfectly valid not to want kids. Millennials and younger generations are opting out of parenthood at record rates. 

Here are their top reasons for not wanting kids

Will You Change Your Mind About a Baby?

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Everyone tells childfree people they will change their minds. But is that true? Here’s what to consider if you’re on the fence about parenthood

Talking About a Baby

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Don’t have kids on a whim. Have these crucial conversations without your partner before deciding you’re ready for a baby

Are You Ready for a Baby?

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Think you’re ready for a baby? Consider these 15 points first

People Can’t Afford Kids

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Even people who want children can’t afford to have them. When basic biology gets put off, you know society is on the decline. Here’s the truth about why young folks aren’t having kids: they can’t afford it.