Some men are oblivious to women’s struggles while attempting to exist. So fellows, do the ladies a favor. Stop these behaviors that make them uncomfortable.
Imagine feeling eyes on you constantly. Women can’t escape the penetrating gaze as they live their lives.
It’s not flattering, it’s creepy, and women don’t like it.
Talking To…Not the Eyes
We know women have bodies and that some outfits flatter certain bodies. However, when talking to a woman, give her the dignity you’d show any other human. Her eyes are indeed “up here.”
Thinking She Likes You
Women in service industry jobs get paid to be nice. That’s literally their job. It doesn’t mean she likes you, so stop thinking it does.
Some men genuinely think catcalling is a compliment. It is not. Keep your comments about women’s bodies to yourself.
Please don’t use close quarters as an excuse to touch people without consent. If you must touch a woman, tap her on the shoulder like you would a man. Don’t place your hand on her hip or the small of her back as you squeeze past her, and absolutely do not “accidentally” touch her in inappropriate places.
Gentleman, the movies failed you. Hollywood often portrays stalkers winning the girl, but it’s super creepy in real life. Don’t show up to her house unannounced, memorize her class schedule, or follow her around.
Visiting Her Work
She’s a captive audience at work because she has to be. Don’t swing by to visit her at work unless she specifically invited you.
Getting Her Number from Elsewhere
The only acceptable way to get her phone number is to ask her for it. Never, ever abuse your position to gain access to her digits.
Don’t message her on any work app like Uber or Doordash asking her out, and don’t access your company’s files to find her phone number. She’ll be creeped out, and you’ll get fired if she reports you.
Inviting Her To Your Place on A First Date…
Unless you’re both on board for a casual hook-up, don’t invite a woman to your house for a first date. Nothing screams you’re only after one thing more than trying to get her to your home.
Or Anywhere Else Secluded
Women must protect themselves when dating. Don’t offer hiking dates or anything else where the two of you will wind up alone together in a secluded place. If you do, women will think you’re clueless at best but dangerous at worst.
Expecting Her Attention
Women don’t owe you anything. She doesn’t have to acknowledge or talk to you if she doesn’t want to. She’s allowed to exist in her space and have nothing to do with you.
Stop disrupting women when they’re doing normal things like working out, shopping or commuting. Accept her refusal to talk with you. Women aren’t obligated to bask in your glory because you deigned to show them attention.
Telling Her to Smile
Would you tell a random man to smile? No? Then don’t say it to women.
Women aren’t decorations designed to make your life more pleasant with their smiles. They’re human beings who are allowed to be unhappy.
Women Are Leaving Their Husbands In Droves
Walk away wife syndrome is all about weaponized incompetence. Women are fed up and leaving men who don’t contribute.
Complex Feelings About Being a Female Breadwinner
As female breadwinners are on the rise, it’s important to discuss the complex feelings that can arise when we shrug off societal expectations.
Ditch the Life Script
Society set up a tidy little life script we’re all supposed to follow – but we don’t have to.
Here’s why you should ditch the life script and live life on your own terms.
Some men are only looking for a free ride. They date woman so they have free housing and don’t have to lift a finger to help.
Giant Waving Red Flags That Your Relationship is Toxic
It’s hard to tell that you’re in a toxic relationship when you’re in the thick of it. If any of these red flags sound familiar, you may want to rethink your relationship.
Melanie launched Partners in Fire in 2017 to document her quest for financial independence with a mix of finance, fun, and solving the world’s problems. She’s self educated in personal finance and passionate about fighting systematic problems that prevent others from achieving their own financial goals. She also loves travel, anthropology, gaming and her cats.