10 Beloved Wedding Traditions With Super Sexist Origins

As the bride and groom head down the aisle to say their “I dos,” they may not realize how many wedding traditions exist due to sexism. 

These wedding and marriage traditions are all about misogyny. 

Asking Permission

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The sexism in wedding traditions starts well before the proposal. The hopeful groom must seek permission to wed from a woman’s rightful owner, her father!

Father of the Bride Pays

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Many cultures devalue women so much fathers pay men to marry them. The dowry lives on today with the expectation that the bride’s father will pay. 

A White Dress

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White symbolizes purity. The white dress shows the world that the bride is worthy of marriage because she kept herself chaste before. 

And the Veil

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The lifting of the veil symbolizes the groom’s permission to break another thin membrane.

Giving the Bride Away

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Historically, weddings were property transfers. A father’s property (his daughter) was transferred to the groom. Nowhere is this old idea of marriage more apparent than in the tradition where the father literally “gives the bride away” to her groom.

Honor and Obey

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Many marriage vows still contain the words “honor and obey,” but only for the women. Men don’t have to obey their wives; that’s ridiculous. 

Groomsmen

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Groomsmen weren’t always the groom’s best pals! They were his right-hand fighters, ready to battle the bride and her family should they attempt to fight the marriage. 

The Garter Toss

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The garter toss symbolizes consummation, proving to the  world that the bride has been deflowered, 

Carrying Her Over the Threshold

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In ancient times, women had no choice in marriage. They’d attempt to fight off their grooms, who simply grabbed them and dragged them home. 

Changing Names

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The misogyny continues after the wedding with the expectation that the woman, not the man, will change her last name, cementing his ownership. 

Marriage Isn’t for Everyone

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Society set up a tidy little life script we’re all supposed to follow – but we don’t have to. 

Here’s why you should ditch the life script and live life on your own terms

Women Are Leaving Their Husbands In Droves

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Walk away wife syndrome is all about weaponized incompetence. Women are fed up and leaving men who don’t contribute. 

Here’s what woman say about it

Complex Feelings About Being a Female Breadwinner

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As female breadwinners are on the rise, it’s important to discuss the complex feelings that can arise when we shrug off societal expectations

Avoid Hobosexuals

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Some men are only looking for a free ride. They date woman so they have free housing and don’t have to lift a finger to help.

Here are some red flags that the guy you’re dating doesn’t want you, he wants to live comfortably off your hard work

Giant Waving Red Flags That Your Relationship is Toxic

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It’s hard to tell that you’re in a toxic relationship when you’re in the thick of it. If any of these red flags sound familiar, you may want to rethink your relationship.